Last one, just had to Share

Empathy cards made by cancer survivor. This is my favorite and I wish this was sent to me after Benny died…150506_EYE_EmpathyCards5.jpg.CROP.original-original

Author: sheriroaf

Sheri Roaf is the mother of four wonderful children who turned to blogging after her 17 month old son Bennett passed away unexpectedly. Through her writing she has found a way to help herself and her family move forward in the face of tragedy.

10 thoughts on “Last one, just had to Share”

  1. haha! I just shared this on Facebook last night.. as funny as they are, they are sooo true.. it’s about time someone thought of it!!

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  2. Not to diminish your point in any way, but sometimes people simply
    don’t know or have the right words. There are no right words… what does one say to try to ease the pain or express empathy, sympathy ot understanding? Shouldn’t the sentiment behind any words at all should be appreciated. Do you think any acknowledgement is better than none at all?


    1. It’s hard to explain unless you’ve walked in my shoes. It’s hard to see much reason in a 17 month old dying.


  3. Rhonda, I think it’s just that even though the grieving or sick person knows that everyone means well, it’s got to be such a breath of fresh air to get a card like one of these, that says how you really feel. It must be hard to be polite when you secretly are screaming on the inside, ya know? I think sometimes people (myself included, unfortunately) say those “cliche” things to make ourselves feel better, too.. if that makes sense… the woman who created this is trying to also spread the word about what not to say:)

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    1. What Tara said. It’s not that we didn’t appreciate the sentiments from people, but my goodness, some of the stuff that was said was just downright hurtful sometimes. People actually told Parker right after the accident to just ‘have another baby’. Believe me, I never knew what to say before it happened to us, but I’m hoping that by sharing what things did/did not help that I can spare other parents from hearing the cliches and cringing, or feeling like they have to grin and bear it.


      1. I think I understand a bit better now. Thanks. I sometimes think that as a society we’ve gotten so “politically correct” that people become afraid to say anything at all for fear of offending. I do get what you’re saying about people saying ridiculously cruel things. I think most people generally mean well. For me, bottom line is still…. there are no words to help heal a shattered world and ease the pain of a broken heart. You guys are always in my thoughts and daily prayers that you are able to just go on and take each new day as it comes. Love you.

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      2. I agree completely about people wanting to be ‘PC.’ The reality is that we get deep down that people are trying to make us feel better. Hell, I wouldn’t have known what to say to me either, until now. Love you guys too!!!


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