Day 12 – Music

When I think of Benny, a few songs come to mind.  Among his favorite are the Wheels on the Bus, the Itsy Bitsy Spider, the Hot Dog Dance and Roar by Katy Perry.  Quite eclectic for a 17 month old.

Darcy and I would sing the Nursery Rhymes to Benny in bed every morning.  We would do all of the hand gestures and he would watch fascinated.  I’m pretty sure Itsy was his favorite because he was mimicking the hand motions at a young age.

We spent a lot of time in the car together.  He ran errands with me, it was a 20 minute ride to Sandy’s house 3 days a week and then we still had to grab Darcy.  He spent a lot of time in the car with me and his sister.  We always had the radio on and would sing along at the top of our lungs.  The first song that he mimicked from the radio was Roar.  Not my favorite song, but it is about strength and overcoming one’s obstacles.  How fitting that he should chose this song.

‘I got the eye of the tiger, a fighter, dancing through the fire
‘Cause I am a champion and you’re gonna hear me roar
Louder, louder than a lion
‘Cause I am a champion and you’re gonna hear me roar’

Benny, like his sister before him enjoyed watching Mickey Mouse Clubhouse.  I don’t know how much he enjoyed watching the show as much as joining in the Hot Dog Dance at the End.  He and Darcy would do it at home or he and the kiddos at Sandy’s (Sandy included) would Hot Dog dance around.  At the end of his memorial service, we invited the kids to Hot Dog dance up on the altar for Benny.  I miss hearing this song, this one’s for you kiddo…

Author: sheriroaf

Sheri Roaf is the mother of four wonderful children who turned to blogging after her 17 month old son Bennett passed away unexpectedly. Through her writing she has found a way to help herself and her family move forward in the face of tragedy.

5 thoughts on “Day 12 – Music”

  1. This made me cry and laugh at the same time. It’s the little things. I can picture my son loving this just the same and I can only imagine Benny’s little curls bouncing while he danced to it. <3. It's such a happy song. 🙂 I can imagine one happy little kid.


  2. My mom had told me about the hotdog song at the memorial…because fittingly Phillip became suddenly obsessed with that show and the song very soon after the accident. I always think of your Benny when I hear it now. I also love when kids like an ” adult” song. So funny! They are smarter than we think!
    On a side note, my grandmother lost her husband of 65 years just about a year ago. Now, I know that’s not the same, but I think she thinks of you often because of the timing. She asked how you were. I forget how I answered, but she’s so wise. She said “well of course she won’t get over it, she’ll always be his mother, she’ll think about him always because that’s a mothers job, here on earth or not.” She was so matter of fact about that..I thought of your posts about people grieving who are asked that ” still” question… She told me you need to start talking to him! She said she’s the crazy old lady who talks to the air all day now.
    Sorry for the rant.


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