I’ve written a lot about the disappointments surrounding child loss and the stupid things that people say. There’s really nothing that anyone can say to make it better when your child dies. A year later, I can look back and tell you what people said that helped to make it bearable. These phrases have stuck with me.
“We WILL get you through this.”
“Benny was a lucky boy and I couldn’t have hoped for two better people to be his parents.”
“You are the best mom. I parented like you, I used to come home and tell my husband that you said to do something a certain way, so that’s what we did.”
“I lost my son too. You will survive this.”
“You will find a way to turn this around, you always do. You will turn this into something to help others.”
These words weren’t the typical platitudes, but spoken sincerely and from the heart. A year later and I haven’t forgotten.
4 thoughts on “Words”
Sheri when I read your posts I realize you say what so many of US feel but can not say as eloquently as you do.
Thanks Marybeth. Writing has truly been one of my best forms of therapy.
What wonderful and encouraging words. You clearly have some great people in your life. What a blessing!
I can tell you that I wouldn’t have been able to say some of those things. Some of the words were said by strangers who are now friends, some by aquantances, others by those closest to us. We are indeed very lucky to have these people in our lives.
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