You Deserve to Be Ok

“Perhaps most of all, though, you deserve to be okay. You deserve to know that a day in which you can just barely get out of bed because you are sad, or sick, or simply not ready to see the outside is not the end of the world. You deserve to know that moments of weakness do not make you fundamentally weak, only fundamentally human, and that sometimes we’re not going to be effusively happy, and that is okay. You deserve to be happy just existing and not constantly holding yourself up to a standard of fake smiles and forced cheerfulness.”  Chelsea Fagan

Couldn’t have said it better.  There are good days and bad ones, and just because you don’t see the bad ones, it doesn’t mean that they don’t exist.  Just because  I’m smiling on the outside, doesn’t mean that it’s all happiness and light on the inside.  People have moved on, have expected that we have done the same.  Some people have started calling again, wanting to spend time with us.  We have not moved on, we will NEVER move on.  We live everyday with the knowledge that we have a son that will forever be 17 months.

Author: sheriroaf

Sheri Roaf is the mother of four wonderful children who turned to blogging after her 17 month old son Bennett passed away unexpectedly. Through her writing she has found a way to help herself and her family move forward in the face of tragedy. View all posts by sheriroaf