17 Days of Benny – Day 17

Day 17-Month 17:


Mid September through November 2013 seems like a blur.  We got into the routine of school for Darcy, I was working part time and things were picking up at the shop for Parker.  We were constantly going.  Darcy was enrolled in dance on Monday nights, so Benny would accompany us and I would chase him around while Darcy danced.

Parker and I were gearing up to host the second Open House at the shop and had our hands full.  The kids were involved in every aspect of it, cleaning the shop, getting stuff ready, etc.  Of course Darcy was definitely more helpful than Benny.  The day of the event, Benny owned it.  He was walking around the cars, shaking peoples hands, he just wanted to be involved.  He was my old soul.

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We celebrated Benny’s second Halloween and he went around the neighborhood with us and the neighbors.  He started out in the wagon, but wanted to be with the big kids, so of course, he ended up walking with us.  It was a fantastic night and our last holiday as a family of 4.

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Benny turned 17 months on October 17th.  He was 9 days shy of being 18 months when the accident happened.  Looking through all of these pictures and memories has been hard, but so truly amazing.  I don’t like that the pictures stop.  I know that he was only 17 months old, but my goodness it was a very busy 17+ months!  He fit a lot of life and a lot joy into those months.  He made our lives a crazy, chaotic place, one that I miss terribly.  It’s too quiet now, there’s less laughter and noise.  Darcy’s growing pains through all of this has been agonizing to watch.  Trying to grieve alongside your spouse who is handling it differently has been hard.  It’s amazing to me when I look back now how different life is in this aftermath.  I miss my little man every single day.

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Author: sheriroaf

Sheri Roaf is the mother of four wonderful children who turned to blogging after her 17 month old son Bennett passed away unexpectedly. Through her writing she has found a way to help herself and her family move forward in the face of tragedy.

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