Age Gap

What is the Perfect Age Gap?

I love, LOVE, love this article.  I have struggled so much with the fact that my kids are each almost exactly 3-3.5 years apart.  With Benny missing in the middle, there are 6.5 years between Fletcher and Darcy.

His absence sometimes feels greater because of the age gap.  Because Darcy is such a little mother to him.  She’ll often times ask me how old she’ll be when he starts kindegarten and it makes me so sad.

Will they ever play together?  Will they have that sibling love/hate relationship?  I have a sister that’s 11 years older than me and just like in this article, we are the best of friends, I couldn’t imagine my life any different.  But we didn’t grow up together, or in the same house even.  Maybe that’s why we get along so well, we had very different childhoods.

My other concern is that if we had more children, would that further the distance between Fletcher and Darcy?  My sister that is 3 years older than me was the one that I fought with, that grew up with me.  As I’m writing this, I’m just realizing I could be describing my own childhood!

I’m a planner so this whole thing just makes me nuts.  I can’t stand feeling out of control (such an ugly non-existant word that goes into the category with deserve).

I don’t have answers.  Just more questions.  More confused as the days creep by.

Author: sheriroaf

Sheri Roaf is the mother of four wonderful children who turned to blogging after her 17 month old son Bennett passed away unexpectedly. Through her writing she has found a way to help herself and her family move forward in the face of tragedy.

One thought on “Age Gap”

  1. I know the feeling. I just wrote about my recent experience with the “gap” as well. We will always have those unanswered questions. Thank you for sharing.


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