Today I’m Grieving

I just did something that I’ve needed to for months. I didn’t want to do it, even though I knew that I had to. It was my last piece of holding onto the old me and I’m so sad.

Most days I’m OK with the new me. She enjoys cooking and playing with Darcy, doing projects around the house and helping out Parker at work. She goes to yoga and takes naps and time for herself, her life from the outside is simple. Of course I know there is nothing simple about me now, but things are certainly less hectic.

I miss the part of me that did it all and loved it. That got up every morning, drove Benny to daycare and sat in traffic for over an hour just to get to a job she loved. There was nothing lazy about that version of me. I was driven.

I know what I can and cannot handle. I know my limits. Some part of me hopes that I see that piece again, that girl that was so driven in life. Sometimes I miss her. I miss the before. I miss my little man and all of the chaos.

I used to be OK with change and be able to roll with it. Now it terrifies me. I can’t go back. I won’t ever be ‘her’ again. Another death, another goodbye. Today I’m grieving for who I was and will never be again. I’m so very sad to let it go.

Author: sheriroaf

Sheri Roaf is the mother of four wonderful children who turned to blogging after her 17 month old son Bennett passed away unexpectedly. Through her writing she has found a way to help herself and her family move forward in the face of tragedy.

3 thoughts on “Today I’m Grieving”

  1. My dearest Susie homemaker (or Betty Crocker whichever one you like best!) Yes. You have changed. Anyone who knew Bennett changed that day. The new you may not drive over an hour in traffic to get to work, but she drives. The new you may not embrace change and roll with it, but she stares it square in the eyes ready to kick its ass if needed. The new you may not get up super early and do drop off, but she gets up and helps her daughter get to school. The new you may take naps and time for herself, but the old you loved to nap too! The new you may cook more and enjoy it, but it’s a great outlit and it’s healthier. I couldn’t be prouder of who you were and are now. Just wanted you to know. Xoxoxox
    “When you come out of the storm you won’t be the same person that walked in.”


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